30 Questions to Ask Mr. OR Ms. Right

In today’s dating world, we find ourselves sifting through a variety of people with the goal of finding the person who we can’t live without and vice versa. When searching for a life partner, it’s important that you ask yourself these questions first. Then as you screen and move through the selection process these questions will guide you in making a wise choice based on a real friendship:

What does it mean to you to be a good friend? How important is it for your spouse to be your best friend?
What does love mean to you?
What’s are the top five items on your bucket list?
Is it important to have a balance between giving and taking in the marriage?
How important is it for you to be able to express your true feelings to one another?
When is it okay to tell each other when you feel angry, sad, or afraid?
How important is it to you to feel affirmed? Supported? Valued? Accepted? Challenged within the relationship?
How important is it to share honestly and openly? Where does truthfulness rank in your relationship? Is it okay to disagree?
Is it okay to feel jealous or resentful if one of you becomes close with other people? Is it okay to express those feelings? What guidelines will be used for resolution?
What does quality time mean to you? How much quality time do you need to be happy in the marriage?
What is the greatest gift you’ve ever received? And what is the best gift you have to give?
When are electronic devices prohibited and how much Social Media sharing about you and your relationship is O.K.?
How important is trust and privacy? What happens if your trust is betrayed?
What’s the role of emotional intimacy? How much sharing is enough? How much is too much?
What does monogamy mean to you? Commitment? Fidelity?
What role does adventure play in the relationship? Spontaneity? Surprises?
What interests or activities do you wish to share with your spouse?
How important is it for you to be able to rely on your partner?
How important is affection and non-sexual touch i.e., cuddling, kissing, holding hands, hugs, back rubs?
How important is romance? What are expressions of love and romance for you?
If one of you acquires a more money or status than the other, how would that affect your relationship? Marriage?
How important is it to agree about spiritual matters and religion? What spiritual practices do you wish to share with your spouse?
How important is it for you to agree about politics?
How important is it for you to have the same philosophy of family life or parenting?
How many children would you like? What values do you want to instill in them?
What hopes and dreams would you like your spouse to fulfill for you?
What life goals would you like your spouse to support you in?
How important is it to agree on the same philosophy of money management? Lifestyle?
How important is sexual intimacy? How often do you wish to engage sexually in order to be happy?
How important is it to forge intellectual, spiritual and emotional connections before engaging sexually? Do you wish to wait for a commitment or marriage?