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30 Dating Red Flags

0609421001597698917.jpgWith the large availability of dating sites and resources to help us find our soul mate, we must learn how to quickly determine if the person before us is even capable of building a meaningful and lasting relationship. If in the first couple of dates any of these warning signs exist, run the other way!

Use this checklist to and identify possible red flags:

  1. _____ Married or otherwise unavailable to commit to me
  2. _____ Acts controlling, rudely or disrespectful toward others or me
  3. _____ Reacts to frustration with anger, rage, blame
  4. _____ Love bombing or cyber stacking
  5. _____ Drinking too much
  6. _____ Substance or behavior (sex, gambling) addiction rationalized as “not a problem”
  7. _____ Asking and talking about personal sexual habits and preferences
  8. _____ Sending suggestive or nude pictures and asking me to reciprocate
  9. _____ Forcing the first kiss by cornering me, etc
  10. _____ Changeable, inconsistent behavior
  11. _____ Wants to be my friend first, but invading personal and sexual boundaries
  12. _____ Immature, impulsive or irresponsible
  13. _____ Emotionally distant, aloof or hollow
  14. _____ Can’t stop talking about his or her Ex or Exes
  15. _____ Wants me to make their sad life better
  16. _____ Is pessimistic and negative about things that matter to me
  17. _____ Lacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.
  18. _____ Unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback, take responsibility
  19. _____ Misses dates without rescheduling in advance
  20. _____ Seems too good to be true
  21. _____ Emotional roller coaster, recurring or regular emotional drama
  22. _____ Talks too much about self, monopolizes conversation or too withdrawn

My gut reactions:

  1. _____ This isn’t what I really want, but I don’t want to be alone
  2. _____ I don’t feel proud of this person to introduce to my friends or family
  3. _____ I want to rescue, help, improve, or change this person
  4. _____ I’m acting needy, clingy or different with this person than I normally do
  5. _____ “Something” about them makes me freak out or triggers panic
  6. _____ I feel frustrated or confused when with him or her
  7. _____ Focusing on one important quality (money, sex, fun) and ignoring all else
  8. _____ I feel desperate

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